Power of your Story.

 
What happens when you are participating in an Servant Evangelism project or you meet someone and you discover the person you have just served or met is interested in Jesus or exploring faith on a deeper level? How far do you go? When do you end the conversation?

Simple answer. You go as far as the person allows you to go. You end whey the person you are talking to ends the conversation.

Tennis Anyone?

Connecting the good news to people in our sphere of influence is very much like a tennis match. You have just served and hit the ball into their court. 

Many times they will hit the ball back into your court with questions. If you are serving them they may ask, Why are you doing this? What kind of church would wash a car, (give a gift bag, hand me a coke) for free? Etc. 

Our response is important. Smiling, the ‘why’ question is usually answered by the reply, ‘We are showing you God’s love in a practical way.” The ‘what kind’ question can be answered by ‘The kind of church that washes cars for free.’

Often It's Serve, Volley

A lady, pulled in for a car wash. Greeting her with a smile, and handing here a small packet with 3 pieces of Joe Bazooka and a connection card, saying ‘Hi! I’m Steve, here is some bubble gum you can chew while we wash your car.’ 

She replied, ‘What’s the deal? You guys gave me a coke at a stoplight. You came to my door with a free light bulb. Now you are washing my car for free??? What’z up? 

Hitting the ball back. I mentioned ‘what’z up’ is that Jesus is in love with you and we are attempting to show you His love in a practical way. 

Her positive yet puzzled look, que’d me to hit the ball back saying, ‘You ought to check us out sometime.’ 

Her pause, and then a cold response given by her eyes and body language hit the ball back to me as a blocking shot. 

It was obvious she was interested, but the mention of Church was a turn off. At this point I knew I needed to changed my position and stepped back and returned a soft volley by relplying, ‘Have a great day, and thanks for letting us wash your car.’

I then moved on to the next car.

Love

A whole different response. During this match. I was able to pray for the lady whose husband had just had a stroke. It was one of those special moments in time. I was able to tell her about God's love for her and her husband. She informed me she was a lapsed Episcopalian. I was also able to point out our church phone number on the connect card and give her my name. The lady was most grateful. I waved as she drove off with tears in her eyes.

Sometimes I am able to move up to the next level and tell my story. Years ago I  developed my story in written form as a further connection point.


(just a note: my story is always changing, what God has done and is doing in my life, the people I've talked to and my life experience as a believer often can relate to certain situations. I don't always share my "come to Jesus" story.)

Story Your Story Can Make A Difference...(see Bill Hybels Just Walk Across The Room)

The Bible Is His-Story.

Here are several examples:

A woman at a well

Note: her story created interest, wonder and intrigue. After Jesus stayed a few days. They not longer just believed because of her story. They heard for themselves. This is the goal. That people would hear Jesus for themselves and believe. Story is the spark that causes people to ponder, wonder and desire to investigate for themselves.

John 4:28-30
Then, leaving her water jar, the woman went back to the town and said to the people, "Come, see a man who told me everything I ever did. Could this be the Christ?" They came out of the town and made their way toward him.  NIV

John 4:39-42
Many of the Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman's testimony, "He told me everything I ever did." So when the Samaritans came to him, they urged him to stay with them, and he stayed two days. And because of his words many more became believers.

They said to the woman, "We no longer believe just because of what you said; now we have heard for ourselves, and we know that this man really is the Savior of the world." NIV


A blind man


John 9:15
Therefore the Pharisees also asked him how he had received his sight. "He put mud on my eyes," the man replied, "and I washed, and now I see." NIV 


This guy was pressed by the hostile questions so he shared his story and finally responded... 'do you want to become his disciple do you?.'

Peter, John, and Paul

 

Life experience is what they shared.



Acts 4:20

For we cannot help speaking about what we have seen and heard." NIV 

Their opponents, stated, 'These people have been with Jesus.'



1 John 1:1-3
That which was from the beginning, 
which 
we have heard, 
which 
we have seen with our eyes, 
which
we have looked at  
and 
our hands have touched 


-this 


we proclaim 
concerning the Word of life. 


The life appeared;  


we have seen it and testify to it, 
and  
we proclaim to you 
the eternal life, 
which 
was with the Father 
and
has appeared to us. 


We  
proclaim to you 
what  
we have seen 
and heard, 
so that 
you also
may have fellowship with us. 
And 
our fellowship  
is with the Father and with his Son, Jesus Christ. NIV

Acts 26:28-29
Then Agrippa said to Paul, "Do you think that in such a short time you can persuade me to be a Christian?" Paul replied, "Short time or long-I pray God that not only you but all who are listening to me today may become what I am, except for these chains." NIV


Paul didn't get into political posturing, or theological debates, he told his story. 

Tell your story it is relevant.

Telling what you have seen, heard and experienced has amazing power in this generation.

How do you develop your personal story? Follow these simple steps. Write as you go. Think about the language. Think about your experience.

Describe your life before Christ. I was lonely, angry, hurt, unfeeling, guilty, rebellious, a drug user, etc.

What circumstance or situation enabled you to consider becoming a Christian? Was is a crisis, an invitation?, a relationship with another person?, a response to a believing friend?, you attended a church?  or were you just curious?

What brought you to the point of commitment? Describe the process and the moment you asked Jesus to come into your life. We are discovering many people simply pray, ‘Well Lord. Here I am.”

Describe how you have changed since you became a believer. I was angry now I have peace. I was a thief now I don't steal.

Write your thoughts in a concise manner so you can remember how to share your story with another person. Usually when I teach on the topic I encourage the people present to share their story with one another within 1 to 3 minutes. After the sharing time I ask, ‘How many of you were touched by what you heard?’ and ‘How many of you were encouraged by what you shared?’ In almost every instance, people respond in the affirmative.

I’ve discovered that many people are interested in reading or hearing my story. I cannot ever remember a time when my story of my journey of faith was not fitting to the situation.(remember my story is updated by my experience and my journey of faith)


 Here is my past to present story as a sample.

From Death To Life

Hi! I’m Steve. I recently returned to the USA after living 18 years in Scotland. I now live and work in Dayton, Ohio and have an exciting job at The Vineyard a pretty good church. Below is some of my story.

Who Am I?
I grew up in small town USA. My father was the town doctor and I was always known as Doc Bowen’s son. As a result of my small size and various hidden family problems I grew up with massive insecurity and a deep sense of rejection. I struggled to find my identity even though I attended the best schools, and had everything money could offer. I was empty inside. I was looking for something.

Flower Power, Drugs and Rock and Roll!
Moving from the 60’s to the 70’s was a mega transition for my generation. I flowed with the crowd seeking happiness in the hippie culture and all that went with it, in a small town sort of way.

Bad News! Uncle Sam Knocked On My Door!!
Many of the people I knew were drafted and ended up in Vietnam. Some returned messed up physically and emotionally. My number was up! Drafted! I knew it was a matter of days before I would be in Vietnam. To escape this possibility I chose to join the US Navy. A few months later I received my orders. I was sent to Pensacola for 4 years. I was a happy man!

Burn Out!
However, I continued in the drug, drink and party scene. I was still seeking inner peace and my identity. I then met a guy named Tim. He was a real Christian. He lived out what he talked about. He had something I did not have.  I talked to Tim often when stoned or just when I wanted to talk. He told me about Jesus and how Jesus could give me a new life. To be honest I didn’t think it was a very good deal at the time, besides I was having too much fun.

Take Me Home Country Road.
As I continued in drug and alcohol abuse I began to find it very difficult to maintain rational thinking and most of my relationships were a mess. Life became one long blur.
I figured I’d go home for a break. However, I got the break I wasn’t looking for.

The Real End!
I attended a party and ended up overdosed, physically, & emotionally strung out. I was messed up.

Remember Tim?
At this time I remembered what Tim had told me about Jesus. He said if I’d call on the  name of Jesus I would be saved. At that moment I had a strong impression that God was saying, ‘Steve, this is your last chance.’ I broke. I then cried from the depths of my being, ‘God Help Me!’

At that moment I sensed a presence I had not felt before. Somehow, I knew everything would be all right.

Two days later I met a man who told me how I could connect with God through Jesus Christ. I prayed a simple prayer that went something like, ‘Jesus I ask you to forgive me. I give you my life.’

At that moment I sensed something like a large weight being removed from my life.  I somehow knew I had found the reason for my existence on this good ole planet.  I finally knew who I was, I knew where I came from, and more importantly I knew where I was going.

It works.

For over 30 years I have known that there is a Big God out there who loves me and cares for my life. I’d encourage you to think about your life. Jesus really can make a difference.
Thanks for reading!
Steve

Often when I’ve hit the ball and had a positive response I ask, ‘Would you like to read the story of my life. Amazingly, more often than not they say, ‘Yes.’

Take it from me developing your story is a good way to gently share your faith with another. You never know when you’re going to play in the game or when you'll be able to share your story with someone.

thinking about the i's of Leadership


1. identity: secure in whose you are, and who you are. leading from confidence

2. inspiration: vision communicated clearly brings inspiration. destiny, purpose, inviting people to change their world... together. this is who we are and what we are doing and going to do.

3. inclusive: the importance of using inclusive language, removing I, me, mine. rephrasing our mission to include, we, our, us, 'together we can'

4. influence: it's our only leverage,  it's our only real leadership tool, every leader has a measure of influence. smart leaders influence the influence-rs.

5. information: clear communication brings security, what, how, where, when, and why brings the needed clarity to followers.

6. integrity:
who we really are, is who we really are...the messenger is the message. Integrity begins with our heart and flows out into our actions.

Kiss Dayton! You've just been Kissed.

special connect card goes into each pack

tables are located at all exits, red table cloths and fun balloons create a fun vibe.

The two weekends just before Valentines day. Our teens and children’s areas pack thousands of Hershie Kisses into small zip lock bags with our special ‘you’ve just been kissed’ connect card. People grab several of the bags as they leave the weekend services and go about kissing the people Dayton during the week.

packed by our VKidz spreading the value of kindness

 Instruction sheet helps people know what to do

I went to the gym a couple of years ago and asked the receptionist, ‘Have you been kissed today?’ 'What? No.', I then handed her a pack of kisses and said, ‘Well, you’ve just been kissed?’ she laughed and then commented, ‘You’re from the Vineyard, right? I said, ‘Yep, we’re that kissing church down the street.

2nd Saturday of Kindness, February 12th, 10am.

Combined with Kiss Dayton we always go out into the community on the Saturday before Valentines Day to encourage people who work in our community. We usually go to strip malls or town centers where the shops are close together. We purchase carnations and take, our You've just been kissed! packs. 

We go to the shops and ask for the manager, of if it is a small shop we just talk to whoever is at the check out register.

We ask. 'How many people are working today?' and count out flowers for each person. We then give the carnations along with the packs of kisses and say, 'You've just been kissed today, have a great Valentines day.' 

The responses are amazing. Some women really reveal their hearts by stating, 'My guy never gives me flowers.' or 'Wow! This is so nice!' etc. Most ask, 'Who are you guys?' 


I love going to Spa's or high end hair saloons. The ladies are always appreciative and surprised.

MLK Jr. Update...

Filled truck pulls into spot to unload... while unloading, guy with security suit states, "You gotta move we are a working loading dock." I reply, "We are moving in a moment." So, hurriedly we take huge box filled with pre-loaded cups, 2 wagons full of 2 1/2 gal dispensers of hot water and coffee, three 6 foot tables, etc to the location. Location is Courthouse Square Dayton OH.

We hurriedly set up tables. Place coffee water dispensers on tables and gather the pre loaded 12 oz cups.

The marching people arrive...early. Now it is organized chaos! We fill cups, put in stir stick and smile, repeat 600 times. In 35 minutes we are finished, people smiling, thanking, encouraging and generally appreciative of the small cup of coffee, or hot chocolate given with great love.

We had a blast and over 600 people were touched with God's love, no strings attached. Being there helps create a 'we care' vibe.

Here is a note from a grateful mom.

 
Hi Steve
Thanks for what you do to reach out to the city. This year your "touches of hot chocolate kindness" touched my son, Sam and his girlfriend Gloria. And some where deep down I think he really was touched. I don't think Gloria had experienced anything quite like this from a church; she was grateful, almost moved by it. Thank you!



Martin Luther King March Outreach

Each year the Dayton community marches to remember and to celebrate the freedom Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. exemplified and passionately proclaimed.

 

We serve our community at the end of the MLK Jr. March. The city gathers in an area then marches to Courthouse Square. We join the celebration and serve the community by providing free coffee and hot chocolate.

Where: Courthouse Square Dayton

When: 11am Monday, January 17, 2011. Come a little early to park (bring quarters for the parking meters).

How: Wear warm clothes, gloves, and a smile. This is a fast-paced event. We serve until we run out of coffee and hot chocolate.

Tip: We discovered it is better to take the time to pre-load the cups with Swiss Miss Hot Chocolate. Buy at Sam's Club $5.80 for box of 60 1 cup servings. We also use a 12 oz cups bought in bulk at Sam's Club. We re-use the box to store the hundreds of cups of Hot Chocolate powder along side the cups we use for coffee. Believe me it is a time / stress, saver when hundreds of people are putting their hands out reaching for the Hot Chocolate. 

On the morning of we put hot water into our weekend coffee pots. The water stays hot for several hours. We then load up everything in wagons. Load the wagons on the truck and head downtown. When we arrive we unload wagons, set up tables and wait for the cold and grateful marchers. Cost for outreach touching around 700 people $100. Good bang for buck.

This outreach is great fun and gratefully received. The outreach can be used at college Campuses, High Schools or where ever people gather.

 


Stack cups inside each other to keep hot chocolate powder sealed.

















You can cut more than one pack to save time. Cut, pour powder into cups, stack cups.





Use bag from box of cups to store filled cups, then place bag into box along with extra cups for coffee.


When bag is full of powder filled cups twist bag to seal.

Place filled cups into box with extra cups. Then re-tape the box top to seal. Store in a dry / cool space. 

On the day of outreach grab box, hot water, stir sticks, tables and free signs and head to your location. Have team members pour water or coffee into cups and hand to grateful people. Don't forget sugar and coffee creamer. 

A connect card is always a great connection point.

Creating God Space Where God Things Can Happen.



Creating God Space...Where God Things Can Happen...

“God did this so that men would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him,
though he is not far from each one of us.
‘For in him we live and move and have our being.’”
Acts 17:27-28 (NIV)

Decisions Determine Destiny... Our destiny and the destiny of others. Our choice to inter connect with another person may change the trajectory of  their life for eternity.

What is God Space?
God space is a tangible space that we can create by faith. God space is an atmosphere,
or an environment, where God’s presence, goodness, kindness, knowledge, and power
are present to nurture faith in another human being.

Clues to creating God Space:
O Learn to be a friendly, open hearted person.
“A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer
than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24 (NKJ)

Friendly open hearted people love their way into the hearts of the people they meet.

Ask yourself:
What does friendly look like?
How do you know when someone is friendly and open hearted?
What are some tips to becoming a friendlier person?

“Treat others the same way you want them to treat you.” Luke 6:31 (NAS)

O Notice others, be aware of the people around you.

Most people are not aware of others. Most people live in their small world and are preoccupied with their personal agenda. In order to notice others we must first of all become aware that we are not aware, then intentionally practice the art of noticing.

“When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed
and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.” Matthew 9:36 (NIV)

O Actively listen for God prompts.
“Blessed is the man who listens to me, watching daily at my doors, waiting at my doorway.
For whoever finds me finds life and receives favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 8:34-35 (NIV)

“My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me...” John 10:27 (NAS)

As one great saint stated, "It's practicing the presence of Jesus." It's learning to listen, to look, to feel, to lean into, and be in touch with God's Holy Spirit.

O Develop otherlyness through serving.

Serving others opens the door for God space to be created in a practical way. As we serve others, opportunities naturally emerge for a God connection.

“Just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a
ransom for many.” Matthew 20:28 (NAS)

O Offer prayer...prayer is the connection point.

When we pray for people, and are in faith, God's creative Spirit has the opportunity to flow out from us to meet the need of another thus creating God space where God things can happen.

“Heal the sick, raise the dead, cure those with leprosy, and cast out demons. Give as
freely as you have received!” Matthew 10:8 (NLT)

Big Idea:
In order to create God space to help others, we have to first create God space for ourselves and in ourselves. In other words, in order to make God known, we must first know God and experience God. 


Tip: Create your own God space daily. Read, pray, worship, listen, receive and respond to His prompting as you wait upon Him.

The Principle.
“Give as freely as you have received!” Matthew 10:8 (NLT)

What have you received?

Two sacrifices that are pleasing to God...

1. “Through Him then, let us continually offer up a sacrifice of praise to God, that is, the fruit
of lips that give thanks to His name. 

Amazingly, it's through our surrendered connection to Jesus, that the Father creates the acceptable worshippers He seeks.

And 

2. Do not neglect doing good and sharing, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.” Hebrews 13:15-16 (NAS)

Those who claim to be in Him must also walk like HIm. He came to serve and give his life as a ransom for many. 


This Christmas season why not practice creating God space. I think you'll have fun.

Tiz the Season!

It's a busy time out there for most people. Some are shopping already in anticipation of Christmas. Tiz the season for outreach. Amazingly many people even in the rush up to Christmas are open to the Good News expressed in practical ways. (Actually they are surprised that people would give up their time to show God's love in in practical ways.) Our serving opens hearts to the good news.

Tips: 
  • In the midst of the rush determine to slow down on the inside and chose to make a difference personally.
  • Notice people.
  • Seek to serve and to care. 
  • Hold a door open for someone. 
  • Offer to carry a persons packages to their car.
  • Pay for someones meal at a restaurant or fast food drive through. 
  • Tip a waitress big and say her name (after ordering, one of my friends says the waitresses name and asks, 'During this season how can I pray for you?')
  • Take a small gift to the grocery check out person just to say thanks. 
  • Visit a hospital emergency waiting room with fresh bagels and coffee offer support and prayer.
  • Visit a nursing home with boxes of Tissues(the good ones). 
  • Take granola bars(buy bulk Sam's Club or Costco's) to the school in your neighborhood and give them to the secretary for the staff and teachers.
  • Invite people to your Christmas Services. You'd be surprised how many people would show up if you personally invited them. Many churches make special Christmas Service invitations to help. Let them know you'll meet them at the main entrance.

Lastly, plan to participate in your church Christmas Season Outreach events.

Here's ours.
Thanksgiving Day Brunch.
Serving Brunch to our friends who come to our downtown Dayton Campus. We'll arrive at 9am, help prep, receive instructions, serve coffee to those who come early, sit and talk with our friends who arrive, then serve a home cooked brunch. This year an unknown lady donated baggetts and bagels from Panera Bread to top off the meal. During our serving we offer hope-full prayer.

Donuts and Coffee the day after Thanksgiving.
We are now the official greeters for one of the largest malls in our area. We show up early 5:30am. We prep our tables. Instruct our team. Then serve Boston Stoker coffee and Krispy Kreeme donuts to the thousands of people who come to shop. (If interested here is the process http://stevebowen.blogspot.com/2008_11_01_archive.html.)






Wrap It Up!
During the run up to Christmas we wrap presents for people free of charge in one of the largest malls in our area for 12 days. I call it the 12 days of Christmas event. We wrap Monday - Thusday 12pm to 2pm and 6pm to 9pm. These are peak hours during the week. On weekends we wrap 12pm to 9pm. We have great conversations, receive many, many thank yous especially from the wrapping impaired men. We also, share who we are, why we do what we do and discretely offer prayer when we sense a need or an opportunity. (last years post http://stevebowen.blogspot.com/2008/12/wrap-it-up_17.html)

Making Christmas Dreams Come True 2010.
Over 300 people serve 1400 attendees who come to our ticketed event. This is the largest event of the year. We target low income children. Over 800 last year attended. We create a wonderland environment, offer a great sit down lunch, paint faces, kids make crafts for their parents, every child receives a personal present, and every family receives a bag of groceries to take home. Last year someone donated Christmas trees.
(the web site is http://mcdct.blogspot.com)

(Last years end of season reflection post(http://stevebowen.blogspot.com/2009/12/whirl-wind-season.html)

In the midst of the the rush there are always opportunities to show God's love in a practical way. Tiz the season.